Sunday, August 30, 2009

When Cancer Changes Your Appearance

We just got back from spending some time in the states (more on that soon), and my inbox was jammed with messages from most of August. One of them was an email to let us know that a friend's husband had an article published in The New York Times. The author, Brian, has been struggling with illness for most of his life and yet manages to maintain a positive outlook that puts most of us to shame. We know about his story through his wife, whom we met at The Cathedral of St. John the Divine, which serves as a spiritual home to some of the most amazing and kind people we have ever met. Anyway, you can read his article here. Brian also keeps a blog, which you can read here.

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

I just have a question if you don't mind, are you planing to have kids of your own, or adoption is your first and only plan?

Cinthya :)

Xander and Alana Cole-Faber said...

Are you being deliberately rude or what? I think you'll find our thoughts on this question elsewhere on the blog.

jandkland said...

Cancer is a beast of a disease that discriminates against no one. I've seen it ravage anyone from a tiny infant to a person who'd lived many decades. I think Brian is brave to keep trying, and I also think he is a person with dreams, thoughts, feelings, wishes, and desires. I hope that, when people read his article, they'll try to see the person beyond every physical body, whether that body is "perfect" as our society defines it or something entirely unexpected. Thanks so much for sharing this article.

--Kelley

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry Ms. Alana, i promese you i had no idea, I saw your beutiful pictures when i was reading about Brian, I am so sorry, if i ofend you.
I was asking because in my case when i think of babies i do have to think of adoption, i love childrens to.
I am really sorry for asking
Cinthya
cinthyagirl@aol.com

Xander and Alana Cole-Faber said...

It's okay, Cinthya. We occasionally get some rude questions and remarks, and sometimes it is hard to filter through it all. If you click on the tag "adoption" at the bottom right of our blog, you can read all of our adoption-related posts. You'll learn some things there, but there are also other adoption links to the right. If you're interested in adoption, I'd take a look at some of those. I'm a fan of Rainbow Kids, myself. I'd also recommend reading Harlow's Monkey.

Anonymous said...

Thank you very much, and again i am really sorry, i should it explaind my self a little better.
I am going to read about it, and thank you for letting us learn about the process thru you . :)

Cinthya