Well, I Never . . .
Now that we get to resume our adoption as if nothing ever happened--What economic crisis? Leave Canada? What are you talking about?--I've been thinking about the fact that we may actually have two kids by this time next year. And that has me wondering what kind of mother I will be. There are things that mothers do that I really hope I don't do. Like take a bunch of photographs of my kids and set them to really sappy music and post them on the internet. And make my brand-new babies get all dressed up in red velvet outfits with bows and sit in Santa's lap even though they are way too young to care or terrified at the prospect. Or change my Facebook profile photo to a picture of just my kids, like I don't even exist anymore. Or start talking baby talk to everyone I know. Or throw themed 1-year-old birthday parties in which they each get their own customized Barney cakes to destroy on video. But the fact that I know perfectly reasonable, independent women who have done these things has me worried. Is it inevitable? Are we just compelled to do these things when we have kids? Is there really any way to stop myself?
Weigh in, parents. What tacky thing did you do when you had kids that you never thought you would ever do? What do you still refuse to do despite pressure from friends, parents, society, or your own kids?
Thursday, February 19, 2009
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Well it seems that I am half doing the things you don't want to do...I am taking a BAZZILLION pictures of Griffin (not setting them up to music though) and my facebook picture does have Griffin in it....but it's of the both of us. I guess I've turned into a half crazy mom. I think overall I'm doing okay though...I can carry on a conversation without talking about G...and how advanced he is (haha) and I have ventured out without him and been okay with it. I think it's definitely possible to be a great parent and still keep your pre-parent identity...well, at least some of it. :)
Moms, be as shamelessly sappy and sentimental as your heart desires. You are making memories and these years come and go oh so quickly.
Nickie
You're going to do all sorts of things you swore you never would. All kids of sappy, sentimental, cheeseball things. Any image of yourself as a mom -- cool, composed, edgy, whatever -- goes right out the window. You'll be crushing on your kid, right along with the rest of us. And you know what? You're going to love every single minute of it.
Things I do that I swore I won't:
* Pick my daughter up and smell her butt for pooh (in public too).
* Spit on my finger and wipe her face.
* Give her a cookie (sometimes with chocolate on it) to keep her from screaming on the bus.
* Listen to bad children's music.
That's all I an think of now, but I am sure there are more. And you're totally going to do all these things and worse too!
I'm right on board with CinnamonOpus, and I've done all the things Michele mentioned. Well, except I didn't give a cookie on the bus, as we don't take the bus, but...you get the picture. It's crazy, but you never know what you'll do or not do as a mom until you have that kid in your daily presence. For what it's worth, I think you have so much to teach your kids--not just in the way of knowledge, but in the way of life. We all worry about what we're doing to these little beings, but the single most important factor is to offer them unconditional love at all times. Do that, and the rest shouldn't hinder them--or you--too much! (:
--Kelley
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